I was freaking out because I didn’t have a clue where to start, what to do, and lost without structure. This is what happens to me when I started to write on my blog 12 years ago.
I was used so much to work in a framework with clear rules and procedures that I could’t stand up by myself when left on my own, scary right? But this is where I embraced my fear to do it wrong.
I chose to step into the unknown and after my first drama crisis, I took a leap of faith. I did exactly what I wanted, what I dreamed to do, express myself with no fear of judgement or criticism.
Because I loved to inspire and motivate people with no expectation at all, people started to like my posts and follow me.
And this is what I want for you. That your state of mind help you to reach new heights and to grow as a businesswoman.
So, let’s dive in, shall we?
How To Overcome Your Fear of Doing It Wrong
Let me give you some context around this lovely fear. Truth bomb: I’ve got this fear since a long time ago.
Our culture dictated that doing something wrong is bad and we internalised it as children, teenagers and adults. Imagine that what you dream to do is something that your parents hate, how would you feel about it? Would you say it and hide your disappointment when they discarded your dream like I did ?
As a student in University, I was perfectionist and responsible, enjoying my law studies in France and knew what I wanted to do.
As a working woman, I managed to get my first job, my first pay rise but didn’t like to show up and brag about my work like some men colleagues used to do. It wasn’t my style AT ALL.
Now, I am coming to you. You know, with my past, guess what this fear tried to do when I dare to become an entrepreneur? To convince me that it was a bad shit crazy idea. Oh yes!
As a woman entrepreneur and mum, you have a ton of responsibilities and you love your loved ones.
You want the best for them and protect them at any cost. I got you, I will do anything for my family tribe.
So, this fear of doing it wrong can truly hold you back because you want to protect your family.
Truth Bomb: The problem is, there is a breaking point when your desire to protect your family is sabotaging your happiness and career.
When you have more time with yourself, you do realise that you left with yourself… and I want you to avoid that. Blowing your 50 candles on your birthday cake should be a celebration, not a wake-up call that it’s time to live your life. I think you’ve got my point.
Wisdom Bomb: The key is to understand the roots of your fear, what created it, what are the behaviours and habits that you develop to hide this fear and not overcome it. When you’re ready for a honesty check up/reality check, dig deeper, don’t surface the issue, be willing to dig to find the gold….because uncover a fear is pure gold.
After this session, you’ll realise 2 things:
1) You’re not your thoughts, feelings and especially your fears.
Journaling helps you, in this case, to distance yourself from this fear.
This fear has lost its grip, you can look at it dead in the eye and deal with this objectively. Small tip: FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. When you put it on paper, you’re taking back your power of choosing consciously your thoughts and attract what you desire. Don’t forget, boss lady, the Law of Attraction is always in motion.
2) Speak with compassion to Mrs Ego.
Her job is to protect you against any emotional risk but wisdom bomb: she will block you to grow your business and yourself as a woman entrepreneur and THIS is something to reduce immediately.
So, I’m not going to sugar coat here, you need to speak with her. Seriously and with compassion. Exactly, the way you’re doing it with your children with firmness and kindness. Not one time, all the time because she’ll show up automatically when you’ll stretch your comfort zone.
If you want to dig deeper, let’s have a talk.
Let’s explore the idea to work together, to overcome this fear with tailored mindset strategies.
Becoming fearless is part of the equation to grow a successful business. Being fearful is not.
With love, joy and trust